We’re not much for suspense, so we’ll lead with a spoiler: this week’s episode is not about the virtues of punishment, but rather, how to discipline without it.  At its core, to discipline is to teach, and to parent effectively is to teach continually, without the pain or shame that punishment invariably brings.

In this week’s episode, Arthur Lavin and Susan Glaser discuss the problem of punishment, the nature of discipline, and how parents can use discipline to teach and guide their children through the conflicts and expectations of their everyday lives.

“Every interaction is a teaching moment, an opportunity to talk to your child and to help them grow and develop.  That is what I think of when I think of discipline, which is why I don’t dislike it.  I love it.  To me, it’s the way that we talk to our children.”

– Susan Glaser


“We can help our children solve their problems without adding shame into their lives, and punishment always carries shame.”

– Arthur Lavin

Episode Highlights:

– Seeing discipline as teaching your child, not punishing him/her.

– Using discipline to embrace children’s love of learning.

– Making your child a problem-solver when faced with conflict.

– Punishment and resentment.

– A step-by-step guide to conflict resolution between children.

– Labeling feelings.

– Using the discipline continuum.